In this day and age, it is quite possible to write and get what you write out to the masses without going through the process of publishing a book or getting a magazine to publish your article. You have the time. But if you can be brave enough to act, and break up with said idiot, then you will be setting yourself up for finding the love of your life. There is someone out there for you and by letting go of the person you are with now you will be able to find him. But one day you will be able to, I promise. How to Let Go of Someone You Love: 12 Essential Tips 1. Everyone has history with someone but don't let that history define you. I was in a warm room, on a cozy table and I had a lovely woman attending to my aches and pains, making me feel loved and cared for. It never failed, I’d be fine to the point where I’d have days that I was ok and not thinking about him much, then one day I’d be thinking about him so hard, missing him, and wishing that he could feel my soul somehow thru the universe, and every single time this happened, he would call me that very day. Please help let him go, I hardly eat, he is the first thing I think of when I open my eyes, last thing I think of when I close my eyes. Be present for these feelings so that you maintain clarity. However, not being loved in return is nothing to be ashamed of. I spoke to him after a few days as if I didn’t try to break up with him. To be really honest, I was and still I am in love with someone who is my best female friend, but the problem is I do feel emotions for her, I do have feelings for her but she does not have for me, she just sees me as just a friend. Yet I cannot imagine her saying all this to me, as just a month ago. He didn’t reply. , Hi. Whatever the reason, letting go of someone is tough. She tells me about him, that he cares for me so much even though there is nothing happening between them as he is just a friend. Am so confused and don’t even know what to do again to convince him to stay. It’s been three months now. Hi Rosy, I am so sorry you are struggling with this man. He cheated on me last year and that truly broke me. Practice Forgiveness As you let go, you’ll feel a lot of resentment and pain towards your partner and towards yourself. Hot n cold acting. By nurturing myself, by loving myself, I was able to get the strength that I needed to let go of the loss of my marriage. I'm sure you're not the only one having a hard time. In order to move on, you must forgive. I know that we all think that we need “closure” at the end of a relationship, that final conversation where everyone gets to say what they want to say and you understand each other and walk away as friends. So if you lack the love for yourself, learn to let go. It’s horrible when a man we loves yo-yos the way he did. Allow yourself to fully experience the loss because the truth is there are no quick fixes. You can do it! I cannot let go yet. I told him I’m not interested and stopped talking to him. Let me point you in the right direction when dealing with letting go. We had been married for 20 years and I was devastated. I’m happy I’m having a baby but shattered that it’s with a man who will never love me or my baby. This process is your brain trying to keep you away from the pain again. All my best, Mitzi. My pain is my own” or imagine yourself apologizing and searching for those feelings of sincerity within you. Before you begin any life changing process you must ask yourself how determined you are to actually do it. She doesn’t believe it will give her a stress-free, relaxing vacation like the commercials claim. They might be helpful! Be Okay With Your Feelings You’re going to experience a ton of emotions. The no contact is golden. Bring your attention, focus, and energy back to you and all the things that light you up. You have left him before so you CAN do it again, and survive. She was devastated. Email me at and let’s talk! Keep yourself busy and you'll probably never notice when you even stopped thinking about your ex. You are living in this moment and this is the moment in which this person doesn’t love you. He was all for ending it, and gave me so many reasons why: He’ll never love me. Yes the distance is his only problem.There is little or nothing I can do to fix the distance because I stay with my parents and they don’t give me much freedom to travel around. Painfully predictable. So get out of bed and rise and shine. This gripping tale by prolific horror novelist, Holly Riordan, will keep you on the edge of your seat! . You’ll outgrow the feeling, the pain that you are in. Thank you. If it’s the distance can you guys fix that? yourself is by acknowledging your role in what went wrong in the relationship while reminding yourself that there were 2 of you involved, and you both contributed to what happened, in your own way. I would love to help! At night we tried having sex but because I think I have a medical condition I was having this burning sensation, I couldn’t bare it. I am happy to talk this through with you. The worse he treats me, the harder I love him. Breakups can be messy and you are almost never prepared to have your heart broken so you most likely don't know where to start when needing to cope with the loss of a relationship.