Maybe when I am not in my PMDD week. People with BPD often experience intense fears of abandonment and instability. Does anyone have any perspectives, or resources that they can suggest that might help? And I commend you for that. Cookies help us deliver our Services. It's so obvious that it's like watching a switch flip in my brain, but even when I know it's happening I can't figure out how to mitigate it. Just stopping myself, waiting for that switch to go back before I continue my life. To be honest I've lost all excitement, I don't really care about anything anymore and that has helped me slow down and think things through. For me, a change of environment and some fresh air (for 10 minutes or hours) can help me deescalate sometimes. BPD splitting destroys relationships by causing the person to distort how they see themselves and others. Wishing you the best! Seeing and responding to the world in these extremes, through either a filter of positivity or negativity, can leave a person with BPD exhausted and emotionally drained. If you live with borderline personality disorder (BPD), “splitting” may be something you can relate to. I only just began DBT about a month or two ago, but my therapist tells me to "check the facts" when I begin to split or dissociate. Anyway, I don’t want to think these thoughts about him because he’s overall good to me and people. While it doesn't work everytime, it has worked sometimes. It's definitely situational, and it won't work everytime, but it may help. I try to avoid topics about racism with my husband because we’re not on the same page and I don’t want to argue about the effects of racism with the man I married. We agree on some things but not others and it’s hard not to split on him when it happens. How do you manage splitting? This is also known as black-and-white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking. Seeking Support . Right there with you. How to Stop Splitting? Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. A place for those who have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) (also known as EUPD [Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder])--, their family members and friends, and anyone else who is interested in learning more about the disorder. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. We didn’t argue but I got emotional and asked not to talk about it anymore. A quick google gives me nothing except for detailed explanations of what it is. I already know what it is, I do it every goddamn day - what I want to know is, how can I stop doing it? That really helped and the fact that I realized that I was about to lose it and I needed to reign that in. To cope with these fears, they might use splitting as a defense mechanism.